Hickory Arts

Upstander Legacy CelebrationI just returned from an extraordinary “networking” trip with a friend and colleague. I’m grateful beyond words. One of the main reasons for “Trippin’ with Molly” was an anti-bullying event called the Upstander Legacy Celebration for the Tyler Clementi Foundation. Maulik Pancholy of 30 Rock hosted. Composer Lance Horne testified and performed a gut-wrenching tribute to Tyler. Mitchell Gold from Hickory, Tipper Gore and hundreds more were in attendance.

Molly Bass has gone to extraordinary lengths to start a conversation and build awareness of resources available for victims of bullying and mental illness in Hickory. Awareness is everything.

Merriam-Webster defines bullying as “abuse and mistreatment of someone vulnerable by someone stronger, more powerful, etc.” Etcetera is the worst.

Bullying can be incremental. It can stare you in the face. It can hide behind a screen or an institution. It feasts on inaction. It can hold you hostage. It can manifest as guilt. It can, it can, it can until we can’t.

Life’s been very good to me, yet I’m a suicide survivor. Severe depression is hard to acknowledge and difficult to treat. Managing it requires acceptance, self-determination, patience—and a good sense of humor doesn’t hurt. I’m living proof it can happen to anyone.

Bullying isn’t reserved for after-school specials. It happens to the best of us. I’ve been bullied by everyone from a friend’s insecurity to a musician’s ego to a pastor’s pride to an organization’s indifference—all at different stages in my life. Are those bullies solely responsible for my depression? No. Did they help? Certainly not. Did they “pull the trigger?” No. In that moment, you’re not thinking; you’re only feeling. You forget your only control is how you react. You forget everything that matters. You’re tired and meaningless. You just wanna close your eyes. You don’t wanna hurt anymore.Tyler Clementi Foundation | Bass~Hartman

In counseling students and in my own case, the most common denominator is alienation; truly believing the world would be better off without you.

“Even when the dark comes crashing through, when you need a friend to carry you and when you’re broken on the ground, you will be found.” — from Dear Evan Hansen

Another common denominator is feeling forsaken. John Lennon penned, “Nobody loves you when you’re down and out.” Folks desert and resent you in your moment(s) of grief and despair, more often than not. “Tough shit.” “Get over it.” “That’s life.”

“When you’re falling in a forest and there’s nobody around, do you ever really crash or even make a sound?”

It isn’t a question of “should” we expect support. Why wouldn’t we? The reality is, people fear what they don’t understand. Empathy requires sacrifice; out of self. Love. Jake Colsen suggests we give our affection only to those who serve our interests and withhold it from those who do not. Who’s interested in another’s pain? The answer is someone. It may not be the someone(s) you want or expect, but someone.

Ugh. As much as I want to and as hard as I try, it’s impossible to boil all of this down to a single thought. Philip Larkin wrote, “Man hands on misery to man… until someone breaks the cycle.”

Woe is me? Woe is you? Hell, no. Once you find your footing, forgive and continue moving forward. As much as you need it, accountability is unlikely, so don’t wait around for it. Break the cycle. Never give up. I’ll leave you with a rally cry from an unlikely source.

“Anytime somebody bullies you, you should thank them every day. Right now, this bully is the only person in your life who’s giving you an actual challenge. Everybody else is anesthetizing you; hugging the power out of you; making you weak. You think the struggle of living in the world gets easier? People stop giving you a hard time? Learn to stand up for yourself now and give it right back to them. Otherwise, shut… up.” — “D” from Chance

Jeff Hartman
Artistic Director

12 Angry Jurors
Runs Thursday and Friday at 7pm and Sunday at 2:30 pm — all at Northview auditorium.

HHS performers stand against cyber bullying with “12 Teen Jurors”

Inspired by the play, “12 Angry Jurors,” a group of Hickory High students ranging from freshmen through seniors are taking a stand against cyber bullying. They are presenting a theatrical production, “12 Teen Jurors” to help educate both middle and high school students—as well as adults.

The one-hour show opens this Thursday, November 16 at 7:00 PM. A second performance will be held on Friday night, November 17 at 7:00 PM with a Sunday matinee scheduled on November 19 at 2:30 PM. All performances will be held in the auditorium at Northview Middle School (302 28th Ave NE, Hickory, NC 28601).

Admission is $5. According to volunteer director, Molly Bass, donations will also be accepted during the photo booth activity outside the performances to benefit the Tyler Clementi Foundation. The Foundation’s goal is to help bring an end to online and offline bullying — everywhere.

“Through education, advocacy, research, and collaboration among diverse communities, progress can be made,” said Bass. “If we help one kid then I think we will have made magic. If we start one conversation then I think we will have made magic. If we cause one kid to question their actions—then we will have made magic,” she said.

Performers and stage crew in the HHS production include: Aaliyah Freeman, Jessica Prince, Ashleigh Christian, Angeleah Propst, Jade Portillo, Hayden Huffman, Vananh Bui, Emily Stober, Izzy Fonnesu, Marcus Phillips, Destre Tashjian, Malik Hill, Aidan Nigrelli, Gavin Dagenhardt, Carter Sinclair, Evie Malone, Emma Jaye Hill, Gettys Sigmon, Jane Worley, and Josh Arditti.

For questions about the performances, contact Dr. Steven Clarke at Hickory High: 828-322-5860

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